What Should a Mother Do with an Errant Daughter?

My friend whom we'll call B, told me that the mother of her son's girlfriend, whom we'll call H, drove her daughter away from home. This is to punish the daughter whom we'll call K, aged 14, for spending too many hours in B's house with her son J, aged 16. Clear?

B has been trying to bring K home but H gave instructions to the guards not to let her up. K hung around the lobby waiting for H to come out but when H did come out, she totally ignored K as if she were not there. She just walked out of the building and went to the airport with her other daughters for their summer home in Boracay. B has been so frustrated because she doesn't know what to do with K. B is a single mom and her hands are full enough already with J. She spoke to J and told him he had better find a way to fix it because she doesn't want to be responsible for someone she doesn't even like. She gave J an ultimatum, if K is still in their house after 2 days, she will bring K to Social Services.

Why do I know this story? Because I know T, the husband of H and the stepfather of K. B is hoping I'd be able to intercede through T.

When your daughter is too much to handle, give up and hand her over to someone who would take her or just forget about her. Simple. It's like dusting off your hands after a mess. This is the strategy of a woman who goes to mass everyday and worships in places like Baclaran or Obando or Manaoag.


B kept asking me what she should do and what I thought of the situation. I couldn't answer her because I couldn't imagine driving my daughter out of my house no matter what was done. I don't think I could do that even if she killed my dogs!

I did tell her that the family is bad news and the best thing for her to do is to take off with her son to the land of Oz.