Comforting Grief

A couple of my friends lost their grandmas this past week.

They both loved their lolas dearly and I know they are deeply sorrowful and I am totally helpless.

How can one offer comfort during this time? All I can say is at least they are now at peace... they are no longer in pain... they are now resting... my prayers for you and your family. All these "comforting" words sound lame. They are just noise because truly, there is no easing the pain of losing someone you love. There is nothing I can say that will make it better. Nothing.

When my father died more than 10 years ago, I got none. Maybe because people knew it was not a loss to me and that there was no grief in my heart? They surely saw there were no tears in my eyes. No one in my immediate family has died since then. At least no one significant to me. When it happens, what will people say to me to comfort me in my grief?

They will say the same lines. Noisy nothings.

I hope my friends will be there and I can take comfort from their silence.