Cons and Cons

I was given an enumeration of cons by you-know-who today which I answered amicably by citing compromises.

I countered by asking why we were having that discussion? What was he asking from me? What for? I have yet to receive a reply.

Normally, a person would focus on the negative areas in order to justify an adverse action. If I wanted to leave a relationship, I would focus on the cons that will nullify the pros. This exercise will convince me that my decision is the right one. Is this what he is doing? Is he telling me why he will stop seeing me? Is he telling himself why he will stop seeing me?

Of course, there is a very slim chance that he is trying to tell me he wants to elevate our relationship. Is he telling me he wants to spend more time with me instead of our usual way except he can't because of the enumerated reasons? I think this angle is remote though. If this were true, he would be telling me exactly why and proposing solutions.

Or could it simply be that he was in a nasty mood as a result of the traffic jam we had to go through? Traffic jams really drive him nuts.

Nah... I think he's pushing me away now while he still can.

Why is a simple matter so complicated?